When children suffer at school: For this child psychiatrist, who created a center in Poitiers specializing in helping out-of-school children, identifying these issues can help parents better accompany them.
When children suffer at school: In kindergarten
The young can suffer from too much unavailability of the adult in classes too busy. Moreover, especially noise and space too big. At that age, they need calm and close and caring adults. Surrounding them further helps reassure them.
Around 6-8 years old, they begin to feel the expectations of adults about their ability to learn and risk losing self-confidence. Some people are already saying “I am stupid, I can not do it.” The fear of being tried prosecutes them for a long time. They need learning conditions that are responsive to their needs. Some adore challenge and competition. Others need to be reassured and especially not compared.
At around 8-11, there may be relationship-related suffering. The more children move away from their families, the more they need to be reassured by their buddies. At this age, they still have several groups of friends quite moving (unlike clans in adolescence). It is the moment when they begin to oppose adults, and where it is necessary to allegiance to the group (especially not to report, under penalty of exclusion).
The challenge for teenagers is to be confronted with a new environment and to be up to the challenge. Puberty upsets them very much. Girls are more precocious (they have breasts as of CM2, their rules in fifth), the boys become pubes towards 13 years (they have their first ejaculations towards the end of fourth). All this cstimulatingreates exciting and interesting classes, especially for kids. Moreover, the group, at this age, takes, even more, the relay. It is authoritative. If one is excluded, it is even worse. Many teens are looking for friends who are worse than themselves to reassure themselves. The phenomena of harassment multiply.
At this point, learning becomes secondary to the concerns of the teenagers, even though the parents is especially feverish before the big screening at the end of the third. Adults are obsessed with the future when the horizon of college students stops at the weekend. They can say strange things (“you will be scavenger”) to re-motivate them, which are totally counterproductive. As a result, there are many conflicts around schooling. All the more so as it is at the college that reveals the “learning with holes” (these deficiencies that the school allowed to accumulate at the primary). Moreover, that the growth of the brain creates in the adolescent a severe emotional adjustment and serious disorders of the mood. The incomprehension that takes place between them makes them all suffer greatly.
In high school
It is the pressure that causes suffering. Young people are afraid of making mistakes in the field when they are looking for themselves. They cultivate unique looks after the conformity of the college. The big question for them is the choice of sexual object. The freedom they enjoy in our times complicates things a lot. Moreover, school success suffers. Again, adults are overly concerned. Some teachers, blasé, can be wicked and make inadequate predictions. They no longer wear gloves when young people have reached the age of compulsory schooling.
What is complicated at this point is the large gap between the expectations of young people and those of society. Parents saw society evolve, fearing that the school would no longer ensure a future for their children. They are both more demanding towards them and harder towards the institution. This worry sometimes makes them prefer the private, where they think their child will be better “held.” The child must have been mistreated by the school so that they can seek help on the side of alternative pedagogies.