8 tips to get closer to your teen
You cherished the years when they were innocent, affectionate and hungry. Here are some tips to help you keep in touch with your teenaged children.
1. Organize family meals
There is something comforting about families coming together to eat, perhaps because this tradition is disappearing. The evening meal is often the only time of the day when the whole family meets. Make it a family affair. Take this opportunity to share the news of the day, develop projects for the weekend, and enjoy the company of others. Research shows that adolescents who are supping with their families, at least a few times a week, are less likely to smoke and use drugs and are more successful in their examinations.
2. Take distance while staying close
It is normal for teens to spend more time with their friends than with their parents. However, do not think your role as a parent decreases for this reason. Look for ways to stay involved in your children’s lives. For example, even if five-hour tea is a thing of the past, get to know your child’s friends by inviting them after school. Remaining present is a challenge, but it is an important way to improve the relationship with your child.
3. Share your emotions
Obviously, keep the personal aspect of the subjects for yourself, but admit that you also, on occasion, may experience anger, anguish, or live difficult times. In short, show your teen that you are not only a parent but also a human being. Not only will your child feel closer to you, but they may be confident enough to share their difficulties on occasion.
4. Find their opinion
Adolescents have an opinion about everything, and they are not afraid to share it. Allow them to decide independently. For example, let them choose when and where to study, how to dress, what to do after school. However, some decisions must be non-negotiable: it is up to the parent to set the limits, to protect the health, safety, and welfare of their child at any age. This may include time of curfew, alcohol and sexual activity, questions about education and university.
5. Trust your child’s choices
Of course, they will err on occasion. Moreover, especially if they are 18, let them solve the problems in their way. At their age, you probably wanted your parents to do the same.
6. Advertise your visit
If your child is an adult, always call before visiting, unless necessary. If you have a teenager, always knock before entering his room.
7. Respect their privacy
Do not read his diary and do not harass him. If you are worried about his behavior, ask him directly this question of four words: can we talk about it? For example: “I find you mute lately, and this worries me. Can we talk about it? ”
8. Be honest
Many parents make compliments when they should, but also when they should not. This undermines trust. If your compliments are as sincere as your criticisms, your child will learn that he can trust you.